Friends of Lily

Who Are the Friends of Lily?

“Friend of Lily” is a phrase coined by Full Marriage Equality and represents

Someone who is in an adult, consensual,  incestuous relationship or has experienced such a relationship,”  or preferably stated, Someone who is consanguinamorous or has experienced consanguinamory or consanguineous relationships or sex.” It is akin to the phrase “Friend of Dorothy” and stems from Lilianna Beckett, the main character in my novel, Love’s Forbidden Flower.

This page is for Friends of Lily, along with those who seek understanding. The people at the links below will help you find  support. Please feel free to post other helpful links and encouraging comments.

For information regarding equality among consenting adults, no matter who you are or what you feel, I strongly recommend Full Marriage Equality Blog and Full  Marriage Equality’s Facebook Group.

Helpful links on the Full Marriage Equality blog:

About the Friends of Lily Symbol

“Sealed with blood, a love that’s doubled A red-hot bond, but lovers troubled A garden of lilies, a crimson flower A stalk of purple, of royals and power.

Leaves of green, for assurance enduring Mysterious rarity, attraction alluring Courage to challenge taboos on affection The forbidden reinforced by prejudiced rejection.

Hidden and shrouded in shadows of black Pain and pleasure, withstanding attack Lovers entwined with soulmate sensations Family and friends, more intense in relations.” ~Keith at Full Marriage Equality


The symbol was created by Cristina at Lily’s Gardner. As she describes it, the flower represents the Friend of Lily’s namesake, Lily from the Forbidden Flower books. Additional symbolism includes:

Red represents the blood that binds people together in this rare opportunity of “double love”.

Green has an emotional correspondence with safety and reflects the safety of being with family. It also represents endurance, as those in incestuous relationships endure much discrimination and hate from people who can’t or won’t try to understand.

Purple represents the mystery and magic of special relationships, as it is a rare color in nature. Friends of Lily are the rare few who were presented with an opportunity of “double love” and have the courage to seize this opportunity.

Black reflects the shroud over consanguinamorous relationships due to oppressive laws.

The circle represents the circle of the family, lover, best friend, and soulmate. Consanguinamorous relationships have come full circle.