Consanguinamory – The Unjust Crime of Love

For those surfing in, Love’s Forbidden Flower is a New Adult Contemporary Romance involving two siblings. It is designed to make you question why we make love laws.


Sometimes research gets depressing.

When I was researching the Forbidden Flower series, I found a lot of things that made me sad, mostly along the lines of discrimination. Here we had a beautiful romance between two characters that society deems shouldn’t be together. If the relationship ever went public, they both could’ve been arrested and served sentences longer than those of some murderers.

Don’t believe me?

Before we continue, let’s make one thing perfectly clear, non-consensual sex is rape. Rape should always be treated as the horrible and abusive crime it is.

There are basically two forms of incest: consensual and non-consensual. Each of these has degrees: sibling, parent/child, cousin, aunt or uncle/niece or nephew. In some areas, all of these forms are considered crimes. In most other areas, sibling and parent/child relations are always a crime. For this reason, the word incest is often confused with abuse. Abuse is a crime and should always be treated as such. Consensual love should never be crime, but sometimes it is. This is why the term incest is considered to be ugly by those in consanguinamorus relationships.

Per Wikipedia, in the following states, if you are convicted of incest, be it rape or between consenting adults, the sentence is LIFE imprisonment. Here are possible sentences for first-degree murder in those states.

Alabama – Death penalty, Life without parole, or Life with parole in 25 years
Florida – death penalty or life without parole
Georgia – Life in prison, in some cases parole within 25 years
Louisiana – Mandatory sentencing: 15-50 years
Mississippi – Death, Life without parole, or Life with parole in 25 years
North Carolina – Death or Life without Parole
South Carolina – Death, Life without parole, or not less than 30 years in prison
Tennessee – Death, Life without parole, or Life with parole eligibility after 35 years

Did anyone else notice that in six of these eight states it is possible to go to jail longer for consensual sex than for first degree murder?

Does life in prison for consensual sex really make sense?

In Alabama, the highest penalty for rape is life or 10-99 years. Yes, theoretically you could serve only 10 for non-consensual sex but get life in jail for consensual sex if you share genes with that person. It’s the same in Georgia. South Carolina rape is a maximum 30 year sentence. In Tennessee we are looking at 15-25 years. Again, these figures are for the most brutal cases of rape imaginable that do not result in death. They are also in states that convict those in consensual relationships for life.

Also, I keep getting asked about the birth defect rate for consanguineous couples. Here are some facts:

Children of unrelated parents have a 3% to 4% risk of having serious birth defects. The offspring of first cousins have only a slightly higher risk of about 4% to 7%. The risk for the closest relation possible, parent/child, is only about 9%, all other factors being random. So between 7% and 9% are the odds for siblings.

If there is no history of genetic abnormality in the family, the chance of having birth defects is very low.

While the general population of childbearing women has a 3 percent chance of delivering a child with a birth defect, after 40 this risk rises to between 6 percent and 8 percent.

So we are looking at a birth defect rate of 7-9% for the product of siblings in healthy, childbearing years and 6-8% for women over forty. Last I heard, late in life parenting was on the rise and no one was trying to stop it.

For another slant on the similar subject of the misconceptions on what is abuse, read author Tami Veldura’s post Power Exchange on this blog.

For more resources on consanguinamory, please visit the Friends of Lily section on this site.

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  1. how true but people have these feelings that are irational i hope one day as a world we see in a better way a more open way

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