Thoughts on Bullying

In Something To Dream On, an adult woman, Lizetta, still struggles to drown the voice of Laura, the schoolmate who bullied her in high school. I know how she feels. I’ve been up against my fair share of bullies who have harassed me about my unchangeable height and the weight issues that I have since overcome.

One of the people who talked down to me the most was basically the same height that I was. You would think that someone who understood what I was up against would be sympathetic. Instead, she insulted me in every way she could; be it her insisting she was tougher or her blasting the things I loved. It took a while, but eventually I came to understand why she did it. First of all, even though we were close in height, she was a little thinner. Finally, she had an edge on someone. Also, her friends were not so nice to me either, so she did what was expected. Interestingly enough, her friends were also somewhat short. What it came down to was they were sick of being bullied themselves, so they found a target to make them feel better about what they had going on physically. Long story short, misery loves company.

How sad is this? Why could those girls not have found a more constructive way to spend their time? Why didn’t they end the chain by just ignoring the insults thrown at them? That’s what my friends and I did. We were drama geeks, and instead of talking smack about others, we talked about movies, TV, and the upcoming plays we were in. When the bullies attacked, we hurt, but we didn’t pass that pain on to another victim.

I encourage people to celebrate who they are, no matter what others think. In my experience, those who knock you are either jealous or escaping from their own issues. Take pride in you.